Civil Marriage Celebrant
Are you looking for a wedding ceremony with more meaning?
Seeking a ceremony that connects heart to heart?
Wondering how to make your ceremony a community enriching event?
Would you like to create a ceremony with intention and sacredness?
Do you have a personal, family, or cultural story that you wish to share?
Want to leave your friends and family with lasting memories?
Lindy & Ulf use their storytelling skills to help you create a truly personalised ceremony. We take the time to get to know you and listen to your stories. We find out what makes you tick, and how you click as a couple. Then we weave it all together in a truly unique ceremony.
Definitely get Lindy & Ulf by your side to help tell the beautifully-unique story of you." Karen Hopkins www.bridedisrupted.com
Telling the Beautifully Unique Story of You
We love to share your stories, the story of your courtship, whether it be a fairy tale, an adventure or total disaster story, the obstacles overcome and the heartfelt declarations. Perhaps you have an important family story or a cultural story that should be shared...Long after the cake has been eaten, it's the stories people remember.
Heart to Heart also have a rich repertoire of folk tales with ancient wisdom, fairy tales full of magic and sacred stories to enrich any wedding ceremony.
Central Coast, Sydney & Newcastle
Two heads are better than one....
While Lindy is the authorised Civil Marriage Celebrant and responsible for all the marriage legalities, Lindy & husband Ulf, work together as a creative team,
to bring both yin & yang ideas and energies to the ceremony.
Photos by Ben Wyeth www.benwyeth.com.au
Why Tell Stories?
The Innate Hunger. In our fast-paced technical world, information is googled then forgotten, relationships may be ‘virtual’ rather than human, and we are bombarded with sounds, images and consumerism. Even our important life events such as weddings & funerals are quick, cookie cutter affairs, often with more thought for the catering & decorations, than the ceremonies. Yet people are searching for meaning in their lives and there is an innate hunger for connection and the warmth of community.
Heart to Heart. Ever since there have been words, there has been storytelling, storytelling is our oldest art form. Stories just makes sense to us, we live stories, we share stories and we understand stories. In storytelling we find the commonalities of our humanity rather than differences. Storytelling provides the nourishment that our souls long for. Stories told eye to eye, mind to mind and heart to heart, gift us the sense of sacredness, the feeling of belonging and recreation of community connectiveness.
A Story Shared. We have seen audiences deeply touched by our stories. One woman thanked Ulf for his honest, heartbreaking story of his first wife's death. She said his story had open her eyes to the beauty that lies within the most difficult of times. A young gay man, with tears in his eyes said the creation myth we shared during a wedding ceremony made him feel truly recognised & valued. While others have wondered at the profound wisdom for today's problems in simple folk tales. In stories, we have cried at the beauty of life, laughed at its absurdity and been inspired by the hero's journey.
Meaning & Sacredness. Whatever the story, and whoever our audience, whether sharing stories at a community event, a school or during a wedding ceremony, we never ceased to be amazed at the profundity of storytelling to open & connect hearts, to share wisdom, give meaning and sacredness back to modern life.
Read more in our blog
The Legal Stuff
A Month's Notice
First & foremost, you must give a month's notice of your intention to marriage. So you will need to meet with your celebrant at least a month and a day before the ceremony and take various farms of identification such as, drivers licence, passport & birth certificate. You will also need to show divorce papers or death certificate if you have been married before. Be warned, you'll also have know your parents date and place of birth. All this information as well as your occupations will be recorded and dated. There is also a no legal impediment statement which must be signed before the ceremony.
As for the ceremony, most civil weddings in Australia follow a similar structure, however there are legalities (see below) which govern some aspects of the civil ceremony but otherwise you are free to mix it up, leave things out or add things in, have friends or family conduct parts of the ceremony... so let your creative juices run wild.
As a Civil Marriage Celebrant, Lindy is happy to answer your questions and guide you through.
Many aspects of the traditional wedding are not legally required, such as the exchange of rings, or the giving away of the bride. There are many other rituals that can add meaning to your ceremony, hand-fasting, sand ceremony, wine ceremony, candle ceremony, the list is almost endless or you can create your very own ritual which holds special significance for you and your families. And we believe that sharing your stories, whether they be personal stories of your meeting & courtship, perhaps the obstacles you had to overcome to be together, or perhaps you have a rich family story or a cultural story of significance which will add layers of meaning to your ceremony.
So, remember, there are legalities (in green) that must be performed by the celebrant, and vows which must be spoken by the bride and groom but otherwise the couple is free to be creative.
Welcome and Introduction
Acknowledgement of Country
Presentation of/or Giving Away of the Bride
Your Story, A Reading or Song
*Monitum- Legal Requirement Performed by Celebrant
The Asking- (I will)
*The Vows- Legal Requirement
The Exchange of Rings
Reading/Song optional, another chance for a story
*Declaration by Celebrant Legal Requirement
Kiss- optional but why would you miss that?
*Signing of register- Legal Requirement
Introduction of the married couple
The Celebrant must be seen to preside over the wedding and give the Monitum. "Family and friends, I have been duly authorized to solemnize marriages according to law in Australia.. …. and …..I would like to remind you therefore, before you are married in my presence and in the presence of these your family, friends and witnesses, of the solemn, the serious and the binding nature of the relationship into which you are now about to enter. Marriage, according to law, is the joining together of two people, to the exclusion of all others, voluntarily entered into, for life" (or words to that effect)
The Celebrant also must give the Declaration and oversea the signing of the register. The other legal requirement is a short vow that must be spoken individually by the partners “I call upon the people here present to witness that I, (full name) take you, (full name) to be my lawful wedded spouse……”. This vow may be said as part of an extended personal vow, just as is, or even as the rings exchanged. Everything else in the ceremony is optional, leaving couples many opportunities to make their celebration something truly unique.
Together we can create something truly unique as we weave your special stories into a fabulous & funky, whimsical & wondrous, sweet & simple, quirky or quiet, a quintessential ceremony that says it all.